I don't tend to reduce things to dualisms. But when it comes to love, whatever kind of love it is, we can live one way. Or we can live another. Observe:
1. Option One: Me dedo, I surrender
2. Option Two: Carpe noctem, Seize the night
The Irishman said it, not I: "You have a choice. You make it now." It is in any event a matter of living without regrets.